You’re probably tired of hearing people say that your ex-spouse will always be a part of your life since you have children together. You try to be cordial, but right now, there is too much anger between the two of you.
How can you be effective co-parents when you can’t stand the sight of each other?
Finding alternative ways to communicate
The foundation of a successful co-parenting relationship is effective communication. This can be a challenge when even the simplest conversations can spiral into an argument. To avoid a communication breakdown, you may need to find an alternative method, such as:
- Emails
- Text messages
- Co-parenting apps
It’s also essential to focus solely on your child’s needs. Avoid bringing up personal grievances. If your ex writes a message that provokes you, take a moment to compose yourself before replying. You can keep the communication productive by staying calm and refusing to participate in the drama.
You should also establish boundaries to keep your interactions respectful. Limit your interactions and keep your discussions strictly about the child. Avoid discussing your personal lives or criticizing the other’s parenting skills and lifestyle. All exchanges should take place in a public, neutral area.
It can be hard to keep your emotions in check, but it’s important to remember that your child loves both parents and deserves to feel secure and loved by them. Even if you don’t respect your spouse, you should be civil to them in front of your child. Also, avoid speaking negatively about your ex, where your child can hear. You should also regularly check in with your child to ensure they feel listened to and understood.
During this challenging time, it’s vital that you also protect your own mental health. You are likely on an emotional roller coaster and need to practice self-care. Surround yourself with trusted family and friends. You should also have a safe space to vent, such as speaking to a therapist about your feelings.
Celebrate the small wins. Every time you and your co-parent have a successful interaction, you can feel good knowing that you have done the right thing for your child.